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A ‘Post-Dating’ World?

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On Point: “Maybe the click and pick ease of digital date-making is undermining ideas of commitment, of standing by your man, your woman, of monogamy – let alone marriage. Making it too easy just to move on. Or not!”

The Atlantic: “The Internet makes it easier for single people to meet other single people with whom they might be compatible, raising the bar for what they consider a good relationship. But what if online dating makes it too easy to meet someone new? What if it raises the bar for a good relationship too high? What if the prospect of finding an ever-more-compatible mate with the click of a mouse means a future of relationship instability, in which we keep chasing the elusive rabbit around the dating track?”

The New York Times: “Instead of dinner-and-a-movie, which seems as obsolete as a rotary phone, they rendezvous over phone texts, Facebook posts, instant messages and other “non-dates” that are leaving a generation confused about how to land a boyfriend or girlfriend.”

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  • Guest

    Online dating is depressing and relentless.  It makes me feel like its a competition in detachment. 

  • BL

    I met my fiance online, and I have several other friends and family members who have found their mates through dating websites. I think if you want to find a life partner, the avenue for reaching that goal doesn’t matter. Just like it doesn’t matter how people arrive at the decision to cheat; if they want to do it, they’ll figure out how. The internet is only a tool, and shouldn’t be used as a scapegoat.

  • Nicole Carlson

    I met my husband on an online dating site 10 years ago.  His profile was suggested to me by the site as being compatible, so I emailed him.  He emailed me back.  We exchange two more emails and then a phone call.  We got along great by phone, so he asked me out on a date.  From the moment he held the door open for me at the restaurant, it was no longer “online dating.”  It was just dating.  Online is just how we met, and the online part of the relationship amounted to less than a week.  We both wanted a serious relationship and we found it.  If that’s what you want, it can be found online just as easily as anywhere else, which is to say, it’s just as hard.  And if you are terrible at relationships or just want to fool around, the internet isn’t going to magically make you different.

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